Both Ego and Attitude are interconnected.
Let us first understand, what is Attitude?
Attitude is a very big thing that has a small part Ego - like if Attitude is a continent then Ego is a small country.
There are two types of attitude: -
1. Good Attitude - This helps us move forward.
2. Bad Attitude - In which we think only and only about ourselves.
Ego is part of Bad Attitude. Every Ego possessing person (Egoistic) has an Attitude, but not every person possessing Attitude needs to also have an Ego.
Just like, We humans are Omnivore (omnivore) but it is not necessary that every human is Carnivore (non-vegetarian) or every human is Herbivore (vegetarian).
Attitude tells us what we think about something, what we feel, how to respond in any situation.
Ego is our unhealthy Believe which makes us selfish and self-important. It does not let us realize our faults. If there is any person in Ego, despite his fault, he will not accept his mistake and he will keep trying to show himself perfect.
Ego distances us from ourselves and gets us to do things that others are impressed with, whether we like doing them or not. It prevents us from learning that if someone is advising us that there is a deficiency in our activity, then we don't want to listen about that deficiency. This changes our confidence in arrogance. It ruins our long-term goals by creating short-term satisfaction for some time. It makes us feel bigger than others, which is not right.
How to recognize that Ego is inside us?
In the Shrimad Bhagavad Gita, Lord Shri Krishna has said that as long as we are doing our work with full devotion and working for progress seeing everyone from a common perspective, then everything is fine but when we are at the top, the rest are not and we start thinking of everyone as small, then there is no doubt that Ego has come in us.
Every person has one of the three stages at any time of their life: -
1. Aspiring - Working to get something.
2. Succeeding - Finding something for which you were working.
3. Failing - Could not do anything.
In these three stages, our biggest enemy always stands to make us fall and that is our own Ego.
Let us see how Ego is in the middle of our three-stage goals?
1. Aspiring - "Less working people talk more". As if we started going to a fitness class today, then after coming from there, we definitely share our posts, pics in social media as much as we have not done fitness exercises. As much as we put our time, willpower, energy into telling people that we would have done that work. In such a situation, our motivation ends in a few days. The reason for this is Ego - because we did not take action in our work and continued to impress others. When the truth is that neither our work will be completed nor we impressed anyone.
So in this way we should use that energy, will, time to work instead of wasting energy, time, willpower on negotiations.
2. Succeeding - When we find something that we are working for, then our confidence increases but sometimes it becomes overconfidence which can also cause us a lot of damage.
For example, if we started a business in which we made a lot of profit, then obviously we will have confidence that we can do anything. We can make a profit by starting a new business by putting that profitable money somewhere and we started a business but we do not have any special knowledge in it, yet we started that business in the Over Confidence and it went into a lot of loss.
In success, Ego teaches us to remove himself from the position of man and make him an overconfident human being with his abilities, which causes us harm.
3. Failing - When everything is going in our hands, we still have one option but we choose the path of our own ruin due to our Ego.
As I suffered a lot in my business and in such a situation my competitor gave me an offer that I should work in his company, which will give me a good salary too. So I turned down his offer because of my Ego - "I will not work in my competitor's company, I will not let this happen" etc...
Meaning I am already at a loss and I missed a good chance to satisfy my ego for a short time. I could know from that moment what a mistake I made that I had to face so much loss. By working in a company, I could know what was missing in my business and how to convert it from loss to profit.
In this way, Ego does not allow us to move forward in every stage of our life, so now the question is that Ego is our enemy, so how do we defeat it ??
There is a method that is best - (+ - = principal)
To get something in life, all of us must create a synergy with three types of humans,
1. Who knows more than us (+): - Failing
2. Who knows less than us (-): - Succeeding
3. Which is equal to us (=): - Aspiring
Aspiring - If we are in the Aspiring stage, then we have to find someone equal to us, who thinks like us, keeps the same balls as us. He can also be our competitor who will encourage us to try more than our limits, which will challenge us and help us to move forward.
And when such a person is with us, we will not have time to pay attention to others nor do we care so much for others, then we will be busy making ourselves better.
Just like if I want to do business, then I have to live with people who want to do business like me, I will learn from them and I will work hard to grow ahead of them.
Succeeding - If we are in the Succeeding stage, then we are looking for someone very successful from us, when we start boasting in ourselves, then the same successful person will remind us again and again that we are still far behind, and we have to move forward. This will not bring ego in us but will bring humility which will help us to move forward and finish our ego.
Our plus (+) may be our mentor (guru), or one who is far ahead of us.
Failing - If we are in the Failing stage, then we are looking for someone who is less than us so that we can teach that person. Because it happens many times that by teaching, we get to know where we made mistakes and where we can be better. By staying with such a person, our confidence and positivity will also increase, which is really important to stay in this stage.
There is a saying -
"Ego is just like a dust in the eye, without clearing the dust we can't see anything clear, so clear the ego and see the world"
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