Hello friends!
Do you feel that your life is not in your control? Have you ever faced such a big challenge in your life that you don't understand what you will do?
And if so, there are some tips that can help us deal with such challenges -
1. You're never completely powerless: -
Just think how you would feel if someone is accused of wrongdoing and you are locked up in jail? One such famous boxer in the US - Rubin Carter, who was put in jail on charges of a triple murder, who had not actually committed the murder. Then instead of he cried like other people and giving up, he had mental fortitude and started reciting books on law, history, and philosophy in jail to redeem himself and after 19 years he proved himself innocent and Rid himself of prison. After he was released from prison, Rubin Carter continued his life instead of asking for an apology from the court or telling the world the story of Injustice that happened to him. Because he said that people can take away everything from you but not your thinking, beliefs, reactions mean we can never be powerless.
So no matter how bad the situation is, we want to convert that barrier into an advantage, so we have to remember that "we are never completely powerless".
2.The art of not panicking: -
When NASA trains its astronauts to send them to space, they first taught a skill not to panic. Because when people get nervous they make mistakes and start reacting by forgetting the procedures and rules which are equivalent to death in space. Our emotions don't allow our problems to be seen clearly, so we have more solutions to the problems of others than ours that he should do it, he should do that. Because we are not emotional in the problems of others and in such a situation we can see the problems clearly and can also find the best solution to the problem.
Whatever problem we have, we can think of it as someone else's problem then find a solution to it, and we can use that solution to finish our problem.
As at the age of 67, Thomas Edison's factory caught fire, which he owned by his hard-work. By hearing this, he immediately reached his factory, and instead of running and panicking there, he told the people standing there that "Go call your wife and children bring them, they have never seen such a fire show in their life." Everyone shocked to hear - Is Thomas Edison was crazy?
Thomas Edison was not mad, he understood that the fire has been started and now can't change anything, and weeping can't do anything. So he did what was in his control at that time and from the next day, he started recovering his burnt factory. And the very next year of that accident he also generated 10 million dollar revenue from his company.
3. Don't panic & focus on what can be controlled: -
There are two types of obstacles in our life: -
1. Internal Obstacles - Which are in our controls
2. External Obstacles - which aren't in our control
We should understand that we can't control all things like weather disasters, the economy, emotions of others and their judgments, etc. But we can control ourselves, so we should control the things on which is in our control and those who aren't, there should control the response, and should n't worry about those things.
4. Follow the process: -
American football coach Nick Saban teaches his players to follow the process. He tells their players to forget as much as the championship and forget to beat the other team and just concentrate on the process of playing and focus on each of their moves in the game and Practice so as to beat the championship as much as the other team and move forward towards there goal.
Demosthenes - Who had difficulty in speaking properly became the great auditors of Athens by following the process. He prepared a process for himself to remove the stuttering of his speech and started following that process like tongue exercise, giving a staircase speech, speaking by maintaining his voice even in the strong wind, etc. He prepared an underground room in his house to educate himself and started reading books, and speech therapy. He can spend maximum time in his progress, took a powerful but weird decision, he shaves half his head so that he doesn't even feel like going out and his time is not spent outside. He followed the entire process of becoming a master and shortly after, a stuttering person achieved such a mastery that people were shocked to hear his powerful expression, strong voice, and the way of speaking.
Thomas Edison invented the light bulb by following some similar processes. In 1878, apart from Thomas Edison, many other inventors were also involved in making the light bulb but Thomas Edison succeeded in making light bulb as he followed the process. To make the light bulb, he tested filaments of more than 6000 materials step by step and followed the watt range of the material then he got success whereas no other inventor tried so many materials by following such a long process. Saying is to forget the long path of your work and follow the process which helps you to move forward in that path because any problem can solve by following some process.
5. Be prepared for the worst: -
The world can drop us, hurt us, but if we are already prepared for it, then we will not have as much trouble as we would have been because of not being ready.
Decision-making research psychologist Gary Klein has devised a technique called Pre-Mortem.
For example, when someone dies, his / her post-mortem is done as to what actually caused him / her death.
We have to reverse the same concept, whenever we take any important decision, then pre-mortem it, that is, to define why our decision can also be spread. The person who is ready for the best result and also for the worst situation can't emotionally distract the failure and that person can easily find a solution by taking a better decision.
6. STOICISM (complete mastery of your emotions): -
If something bad happens to us in our life, then we shouldn't always think that something bad has happened to me, rather it should be thought that it could have been worse with us. Like if our job is lost then there will be saved in our bank, if our leg is broken then at least our life is saved, if the house is to be mortgaged, at least our health is safe. In this way that we can control our emotions which will make us stronger than ever.
Benjamin Franklin used to say that what hurts us teaches us.
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