Hello friends!
You might feel a bit strange to hear this, but the truth is that we are all a product. A product that has many expectations. Expectations from your parents, relatives, friends, and most importantly your own, like we will become a successful person by reading well, do many great things, keep everyone happy, change the world, and so on. But the truth is that most of this hope remains just hope, which is never true. Meaning we cannot become the great product that we want to be or as we could become.
And there is a big reason for this thing that we do not know "How to think?"
We have been taught since childhood what to think and what not? Which ideas, beliefs should be followed and which are not, what is right, what is wrong, who is right and wrong.
There are many things we have to teach when we are not taught "How should we think?" which is the most important. Because thinking itself determines how a human's life will be made or deteriorated further. Although this work should be done by our parents and the problem is that most of the parents themselves don't know how to think.
There are some facts from which we can find answers to how to think -
1. People are weird - We have to face rejections many times like in an interview, in business, rejections of not getting a response after messaging someone, we have requested someone and someone has rejected us, etc. There are many types of rejections and they come in every human's life in one way or another. But whenever these rejections come, they give one thing to everyone and that is - pain because we humans don't like to be rejected.
And how should we think to deal with this pain?
Like what will we do if a lion comes in front of us? Obviously, we will run away, afraid.
But if a cute little panda comes in front of us, then we will hardly run again and it may be that we will also start feeding that panda because some notion of lion and panda has been formed in our mind. Like a lion means dreadful while panda means friendly animal. This belief will give rise to expectation like we would expect from the lion that it will eat on sight while the panda will not do anything like this.
In the same way that we see what perception we have towards other human beings. Most people will get the same perception for other people such as "People are crazy, stupid, mean, they are not trustworthy, etc. But this is not always true because we have seen many people doing good work even as many people are helping the government at the time of Lockdown by distributing free sanitizers and masks, distributing food, those who are not able to reach their home, etc.
So it decides that not all are good or all are bad in this world, some are good or some are bad. Some people are bad even after being good like they can be angry, and they can be a victim of bad habits. And some people are good even after being bad as their intention may be right but their way of working may be wrong. So in such a situation we are sure to get confused and we start thinking that people are very complicated, its tough to understand them and not understanding others can cause problems in our life, so it is better that we say this - people are weird.
2. Never believe anything without data - This perception and expectation come to us from data that prove something like a lion is a data and we are taught from school that a lion is a beast and this is 100% true fact, but when it comes to humans, we assume things, we do not have data.
In today's time, being weird is both a compliment and a comment. So this "weird" is a mysterious word nowadays, as people are. We have to think that people are strange, neither will we make good or bad perception towards people, due to which we will not have any wrong expectations.
3. You are not special until you earn it -
To understand this fact, first, we have to understand that we also have some desires, instincts. Most of which desires, instincts are not good which can harm us or do not allow us to move forward in life which still means to harm ourselves.
In order to protect ourselves from harm, we control our habits, desires, instincts which we call self-control. If we control ourselves, we will set new rules for ourselves as if I want to do this.
By doing this, our morality will be formed, and doing so will bring a big change in us.
By which we become our own authority through which our life comes in our control which is truly life-changing, from which our self-esteem, self-worth, self-respect everything starts growing.
4. See yourself as a nation -
Suppose we are not a person but a country and other people like our parents, our friends, relatives are our Neighboring country with whom we will have good relations, everything will be right, but when the relationship is bad, then both will be a problem.
Now we are the president of the nation, so we have made some moral codes and rules which will be our constitution which will not be good for us to break.
Self-control is our security force that helps to apply moral codes and rules properly. Our nation will be self-respecting happiness index, which will be better only when the constitution of the country is running equally with the help of self-control.
While our bad habits, desires, instincts which can harm us will be terrorists.
The ego which is our opposition party, speaks to us mostly well but does not let us become superior. These means don't allow ego to dominate in yourself, don't let others control ourselves, because it will not be good for us, a nation, just keep authority itself for our life and always keep moving forward.
5. Screw your heroes / Admire, don't follow -
For example - suppose you like Dhoni very much, you are a big fan of his, you follow him. It is true that Dhoni is a great leader but even if he says something wrong about politics beyond cricket. On the off chance that you will tell Dhoni rightly if you don't know how to think properly. Because you will be speaking correctly to Dhoni without any facts and understanding. So, instead of speaking good or bad for people, we should say good or bad about their actions. As if you are a big fan of Dhoni, you follow him but tomorrow Dhoni will do something wrong, then instead of following him, instead of taking his side, you should believe according to data, research, what is right, And what wrong. This is the right way to think.
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